Anger, Temperament & Marriages (I)


*DAILY DEW 19TH/ FEBRUARY/2021*

*Anger, Temperament & Marriages* (I)

_Key Bible Text:_
*I am afraid that when I get there I will find you different from what I would like you to be and you will find me different from what you would like me to be. I am afraid that I will find quarreling and jealousy, hot tempers and selfishness, insults and gossip, pride and disorder.*
(2 Cor 12:20 (GNB))

_Bible Insight:_
When we speak of anger, we include its various forms of bitterness, revenge, resentment, attack, and perhaps ten other expressions of hostility. In our opinion, nothing is more devastating to a marriage relationship, and no other emotion spoils family living or destroys the psyche of children as does anger. The home was meant to be an emotional haven of peace, love, and joy to which couples and their eventual children could resort, shielded from the hostile, selfish world outside. Unfortunately, many people find more hostility and animosity in their homes than outside them. 

Over 80 percent of today's marriages show a predisposition to problems of anger. As one famous marriage counselor told me privately, "Whenever I am at a loss in diagnosing the cause of marital or personal problems, I always look for anger; eighty percent of the time I'm right". We had come to the same conclusion based on our own counseling and because of the fact that three of the temperaments reflects a predisposition to anger. They express it in different forms, but it is anger nonetheless. 

Sanguines display a quick, hot temper but immediately forget about it after their explosion. Cholerics possess an equally turbulent disposition, but they can carry a grudge indefinitely and burst into flame all over again whenever reminded of what set them off. Melancholies, who are rarely quick-tempered, frequently indulge in revenge. Consequently, they mull things over for a long time, seething inwardly, but may or may not explode. Their pent-up emotions will distinctly inhibit their actual feelings and judgment. 

Phlegmatics rarely experience anger unless their secondary temperament is sufficiently strong to ignite them. (Most people have two temperaments, a dominant one and a secondary one, and recent temperament tests indicate that some people have three temperaments.) Consequently, some phlegmatics do occasionally experience anger, due to their secondary temperament. 

MEDITATION:
*Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.*
(James 1:19-20 (KJV))

*#David Joshua Egbochuo*
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(Culled from The Spirit-Filled Family by Tim & Beverly LaHaye)


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